Today, I’ll be sharing with you all some rules that will help you get the best out of conversations.
Like it or not, we all get involved in conversations every day of our lives. Be it in school, at work or on social media.
These rules will help you become an interesting conversationalist that every would truly enjoy being around.
Don’t fake being who or what you’re not. Be yourself and act natural.
Don’t start forming an accent that you don’t have. People should enjoying talking or chatting with you for who you are.
LISTEN MORE THAN YOU TALK.
The key to getting the best out of a conversation is more in your listening than in your talking.
People love to talk about themselves and everyone has a special liking to someone who listens to them talk about themselves.
Give people enough time to talk their talk.
THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK.
Take time to chew your words very carefully before you spill them out.
Don’t just say whatever comes to your mind. Think and rethink before you speak. Interpret and misinterpret what you want to say before you say them. It will get you out of trouble.
TAKE YOUR TURN.
A conversation is a group project and not a monologue. Avoid dominating the conversation. Talk your own and let others talk theirs.
AVOID SENSITIVE TOPICS
Avoid talking politics, sex, or religion with someone your not too conversant with.
Tailor your conversation topics to those you are conversing with. Always avoid very sensitive topics until you know quite much about the person.
CARRY EVERYONE ALONG
Don’t talk to only one person when conversing in a group. This leaves the others left out and feeling awkward. Bring up topics that everyone can participate.
Too much unburdening is interpreted as desperation and repels people faster than water off a duck’s back.
You have to cultivate a little mystery; leave people intrigued and wanting more.
It’s very rude for you to interrupt someone in the middle of a conversation.
No matter how tempting it is for you to add something, be patient and wait till he/she is done talking.
You may not agree with everything the other person is saying. That’s fine. Just be respectful of their opinions.
Expressing your point of view is fine too; just don’t impose it on the other person, and don’t argue.
A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.
Be sensitive to know when you’ve said enough.
Converse, not debate (or argue).
A conversation should be an avenue where opinions are aired, not a battleground to pit one’s stance against another. Chat, discuss, and trash out ideas, but do so amiably.